I had the same problem for a while.
It's probably completely unrelated to Dragonfly CMS.
The Mytob worm was on one of my user's computers, and it cleverly looked at the last visited website from Internet History (my site) to 'spoof' my domain name. <-- Making it look as if the emails were from me!
It can be taken care of quite easily if the ISP is helpful.
You need to see the Message Headers of the emails so you can see the originating IP address of the email. If you're using Outlook, you can see this via View -> Options. I think. Or something like that. Do a quick search for 'email headers' in outlook's help.
Once you have found the IP address in the email header, you can do a WHOIS search for it to find the ISP of that computer.
Try doing a WHOIS search at
www.ripe.net and
www.apnic.net and
www.arin.net first.
Let me know if you have any problems